Relations in the "e" ("i") Age

We Are living in the Communication age , the Age where everything starts of with an "e" (Apple Like to fancy it with an "i").

We eMail, Read ePaper, We Stay online , Work Online , but stay Apart.

The age of Communication, has provided us with all the means to communicate , but has taken from us the urge.

The urge to write a mail (letter), The urge to talk back home, The urge to Listen to your sweetheart's Voice, The Urge and passion to have your photographs developed and printed, The Urge to get together with old pals from college/school or the Urge to be present at the Family get together .

The boon has slowly seeped us deep inside, making space for itself by dumping out odd emotions, unrelated conclusions, savoring times, Odd memories...

The Age has taken a toll on us, We Don't know emotions, we can't interpret reactions, And Most times We fail to understand our own very self.

You have a 1000 friends Online, but rarely a real one beside you. You have a tons of mails in your inbox , but rarely any that Counts !

You enter a gathering , Looking for people with same passion , and end up talking google, yahoo, MSN , Some new Streaming site, Torrents , Links to the posts you did, or to comments by an odd person.

You find a Friend, a real one , but you fumble on ways to interact, to react to his deeds, to help him when he needs , to catch the signs when he wants you.

Worst , You interact with a Cross gender, You share same passion , You love the company , Its been ages you talked to a girl , You share emotions , and then your mind goes overload.

the module to handle emotions was just dumped down by the new package to understand controls on your iPod to control the laptop via Internet.

You simply lost count.

You become restless, Impatient , And @best interpret the "relation" to be of love (yeah you already had 50+ of them ). Even worse - you have a girlfriend , now what do you do.

I'll leave this for you to interpret (if you don't have a Module replacement already ;) )

You talk back home on persistence of your mother's "SMS", but then again , you've nothing to talk, same Old Office , college , food, Sleep, Play, and Obviously you can't talk All the "e" Things to her.

What do you do?

Try and run away. Blubber some crap, Have a Fight , Argue , And Off you go.

Turns out you dn't have a Family now!

Friends , yeah i have friends, they are my age , they talk all the "e" Crap, Lets Talk to friends ..

And Off you go again to "YOUR" kind , talking more crap , replacing more modules , turning more Zombie , burning more midnight oil, and breaking more apart!

Welcome to the Age of

"Communication"

Lost Friends....or Broken Bondages... ?

A Letter to F.R.I.E.N.D.S.... Lost and battered Bonds ...

Hi All,

It was/has been (and probably will be with quite a few of you) a great time so far so forth.

The moments we cherished (whether real/fake True/Forced, Necessity or Just Friendship), have been True medallions to my life till the time.
But inevitable does happen...
no one's to be blamed
and no one can avoid...
i see.. with distances.. our hearts have split apart..
or rather the fake bondings have broken
yes we do talk
yes we do wish each other on the occasions..
but thats a baggage
A baggage we carry.. so as to fulfil our social duties-
"One ought to have friends", "One ought to be happy with Company"

Nothing's wrong.

But i guess its time we shed down old threads
tread up on Fake memories.
No one likes baggages.
I surely don't
No longer do i want to beg for someone's precious time
Neither do i want Information from you which you intend not to discuss.
There's nothing like "There are no secrets in Friends"
It was nice meeting you all..
But for future...
I'll not be the one to maintain legacy relations
There'll not be any Fake Friend in my list any more
I'll not act social for PR Ratings
You can call it up a new years resolution
High time i take one
You have received this mail coz i thought you all to be one of the few close ones to me...
but most of you won't be in there any more.
I feel sorry to lose you all..
Probably wasn't worth your gathering. any ways ..

I may sound harsh/rude/egoistic

BUT

This is probably one of the very few times , i have been true to myself, and to you all.
Pardon me for everything Its not the end of the world...
We'll meet soon

I am sure most of you won't have read it .. but whenever u do clear ur spams...

Adios


PS: Don't bother calling/texting/replying if you don't intend to

Big Fish!!! > Quest for a Bigger one

****Posting a long Written Entry****

The weekend , had a real nice and fruitful discussion with Rekha on our project, lives, transaction from college till data, career prospects and all those subjects we never thought we'd talk of. And the results were Superlative!!!
Here goes a retrospective gist for my own reference whenever and wherever i feel (and of course for all of you out there reading it).

Its been more than an year working in the software industry (of India), working on diverse fields and routine jobs , mundane jargon's , and (un)necessory processes , working your way into destruction of your self , yet wondering each time .. Woah how did i do this to ME.

This is the phase , where people start contemplating on the future.
This is the phase , when your parents start thinking of your partner (and u too).
This is the phase , When people feel the Pinch to do the thing which the Utmost want to do, And
This is the phase , When You have the Max ,and justifiably Equal Fear of Failure!!!

Lets take'em one by one.

This is the Phase , Where people start Contemplating on the future !
Really?
Not actually , rather this is the period they start looking back , this is the phase when they look at themselves as what they could have been, This is the phase, when people don't have a dream , not a real , a new one , so they go on dig their past , try to bring out the hidden dream.
The one which had always been there, but neglected.
Why now?
Because people don't really know what else to do, they can't think of anything worth a penny.
This is the time by which their sense of self is long dead,
and This is the time , which if and will , make their future.
Hazy!!!???
We'll back Come to it (or rather we'll have to come back to it)

This is the phase , when your parents start thinking of your partner (and u too).
Yeah rite, You accept or not (Guys won't , girls WILL), but this is the time of life , when you are most frustrated, when you need someone , someone apart from ur dear friends, whom u may tell all , whom you may scream out loud, and who .. in spite of all this, will turn up to you whenever he/she has a problem/solution.
Your parents , get confused with your behaviour , your rudeness, your abstractness, your new lifestyle, suddenly the generation gap Widens, Its everywhere , the look helpless , what has happened to their lovely lad/lass.
and wollah , they look for an adapter ;)
An adapter who fits into ur generation , and connects you with the old gen of theirs, so as the vibes are back on track.
PERRRRFECT

This is the phase , When people feel the Pinch to do the thing which the Utmost want to do
ok , al rite . Yes , this is the phase , when most of the Entrepreneurs began their insight, their vision, their Goal.
Frustration opens the eye, and scarcity brings innovation.
IFF (extra F intended ;) ) you are feeling content with the job you are in , IFF you are happy with the stuff you are doing, and IFF you see no harm in continuing.
Congratulations my friend, you have found the destination , Catch up to it.
Very rarely people do find the Satisfaction.
BUT , IF you are sad whenever something good happens to someone around you, or IF you feel a pinch to do something, but donno what, or IF you are just unhappy at times , and find solace in itsy bitsy happiness scattered everywhere.

THEN you probably need some more time with yourself, you need a thorough soul searching , you need to weigh your choices, and yesss you need a change in life.

This is the phase , When You have the Max ,and justifiably Equal Fear of Failure!!!
When you were young (College) , you had no Job , No money , all play and mind was a free bee,
You had parents to fall back on (you still do),You had castles to make , you had plans to execute, You had DREAMS , Each day anew !!!
Innovation , Ideas, Thoughts ... they all came in a free way.
You had no binary actions to do, you had so many options to choose or to ignore.
BUT
Now is not the time (Some people may argue , and rightly so),
You have a Fat check coming in ,
You have Liabilities transferred on to you,
You have a Lifestyle change , which is cumbersome to change,
You don't really have a friend backing (distances matter),
You are too confused to go on,
You weigh Decisions on Results , not on belief.

You start thinking about your parents , you start contemplating on your career, you see monetary loss, You start bargaining with your soul, You don't know what to do, You seek advices from people , but have your own in place ,
You start looking for a better place , but you hardly know what's better.
You either follow the herd straight away (do an MBA in most of the cases , as it pays money and power),
or
you follow your past dreams (based on inputs from people around you, who know nothing about you),
or
you bargain yourselves with quite many past and future options , and rather select the current one.
You end up ...
Being a Fish, Looking for a Bigger Fish

Search. . .

Human Mind is A Nomad by nature, an infinite loop with greed for anything and everything. When Darwin gave his theory of evolution , it was a revolution to understand the evolution of man kind, BUT , ain't it the greed , the lust , the hunger , which led man to turn social from ape?
If yes, Why do we Condemn the so called -ve elements of society?
They are doin the same thing what Darwin taught us: Survive !

And if Survival were the only motif , then we would not be standin right here... The Motif is to outshine , to become the larger fish, to search for a larger prey, to device methods to fight back the competetion.
Hence If Survival were the only motif , Evoloution was not at all necessory.

Coming to our real world , the Pseudo Physical world we live in , The World we call Home , The World which might well Enough be a Program Written by An Almighty ;) (Matrix ).
Each day we Start with a Search!
Search for a Motif to start the day,
Search for a Means to survive,
Search for yet another Reason,

Search for ME.

Its not the Society,Its not the Need, Its not the Status, and Its Surely not Pure Selflessness which drives the day/months/years of our lives.

Let me site an Example to end up with...
"Raghav Works for a multinational firm , which pays handsomely for a newbie. He gets the best work he ever though of during his grad days, He gets all the tools to make his life easy, the work is just moving some tits bits ,

YET. . .

He's not happy, he wants challange , he wants freedom , he wants friends, he wants moolah, He Searches for yet another Search....
A Search to Search again for Satisfaction."

Raghav is Just an example , it can be you me , anyone. We start our days/months/years with a Goal, and on the way ... it get lost in the myriads of another Bigger and flashier Goals.

Should Raghav Quit his aspirations, have a steady life, be content , Surely he'll SURVIVE ! ! !

Or

He Should Continue searching , keep goin for newer Horizons , stay Hungry (On the lines of : "Stay Hungry Stay Foolish"), and end up discontent , dismayed, or may be just pass off... ?